Knowing and living your values is a foundational step if you are a messenger, visionary, thought-leader, and make-a-difference change-maker. Join a community of change agents at The Gathering to tap into the power and purpose of values.
Values work is potent. There’s great richness in going deeply into the foundational building blocks of values as part of the inner shift we are here to usher through in our work and with our clients. Working with values is the first step if you, like me, care deeply about making a significant difference in the lives of your clients, and so, by extension, inviting that big difference to show up in the world.
It’s most effective when values are shared, and so building community around values is one of the great challenges we face in co-creating a new society and the upgraded institutions needed to serve it.
I have been called into a hugely productive partnership and collaboration with The True Purpose Institute. Their “first Wednesday of the month” tele-seminar, called The Gathering, invites change makers in all arenas to come together to learn and strengthen the inner game that will make us more effective in the change we are here to support in the world.
This Wednesday, 5 June, is the call that focuses on Values.
It is part of the True Purpose Institute monthly “Gathering” calls, and is being offered in partnership with the Barrett Values Centre. I invite you to join us if you can. I urge you to sign up to receive the recording, even if you have a conflict with being on the call live.
Here’s a bit about the “inner requirement” for knowing and living your values as change makers.
When wielding great power, you must be guided by
clear principles that ensure your actions are in
alignment with your purpose. As Mahatma Gandhi
said, “The means are the ends in the making”!
How you go about creating transformation is every
bit as important as the transformation itself.
Moreover, the values you choose must be consistent
with the world you are creating. This ensures that
your actions will continually model and reinforce
the new paradigm (assuming your behavior aligns
with your values, of course!)
Below is the link to sign up to receive the call-in details about The Gathering calls. There is no charge for the call, though there is a place to “pay it forward” via a True Purpose Institute-affiliated nonprofit.
The Gathering for Change Makers offers a year+ of monthly, high-level change-agent and inner-game strengthening conversations and community calls.
Here’s the link to sign for to get the call details (and also get access to this call recording as well as past and future call recordings):
A shout-out to you, Conscious Creator: A lifetime feeling like a misfit, aching for the joy and refreshment of being replenished from deep within, longing to make the connection with like-hearted others… Make this summer your time to shine your light. Solstice, called Midsummer, is the start of summer, so DECIDE that this is your summer to create momentum and connect with your tribe. Here’s a start-of-summer listing of summer camps for Conscious Creators. En-JOY!
What will YOU make of this remarkable summer?
Ask yourself if it’s time for your own Summer
Camp. If you are a Conscious Creator, this is
YOUR time. Replenishment and creative play are
key to your health, wealth, and personal growth.
Take time to look into one or more of these
supportive communities/classes. You’ll play with like-
hearted others and build your impetus and
momentum with the wealth of information,
inspiration, and guidance to move along the Dreams of Your Heart’s Desires!
Lots of rich and delicious opportunities to
create your future — starting THIS weekend!
It’s no secret that time seems to be moving at
warp speed and everything is changing almost
before it’s born.
That said, you’ll discover a
spacious creativity available when you step
into the Kairos time of the Conscious Creator…
The eternal present remains uncluttered and
focused, a place where you can step into
your fertile phase of BEE-ing!
1. Saturday June 23: Bring Your Inner Vision — Out! Virtual Vision Boarding with Sherry Murry
This event is the first of several fantastic outlets
for energizing your vision, purpose, projects, and
conscious connections over this summer 2012!
Get started here with my friend Sherry Murry’s
virtual workshop to sharpen up your Vision for the
rest of 2012 by creating your very own tailor-made Summer 2012 Vision Board.
Details at: http://visionwithin.eventbrite.com/
(Tell Sherry that Bobbye sent you! It’s a soul-replenishing process from the Songstress of Soul!)
2. Sunday June 24: Live and in person in Chicagoland! Gathering Chicago’s Change Agents: Cultural Creatives Unite at Chicago IONS.
This is an event for you if you’ve always felt
like you never quite fit in. You may be on a
path of Change Agent, Thought Leader, or Messenger.
On Sunday, Adam Shames of Kreativity Network
updates the community with the latest
research based on his interview with Paul Ray.
Most important of all: It’s a
gathering of the Cultural Creative Tribe on 6-24.
(and you can connect with me live if you are able to come out for it.) I’ll be scribing our community
town-hall findings, discoveries, and conclusions
on the flip chart.
3. Monday June 25 at 5pm Eastern Time is the LAST
DAY and MOMENT for you to sign up for Web Site Camp — where you get the hands-on know-how to bypass a webmaster and go live with your WordPress website.
Just Imagine how you feel.. fall is in the air,
the kids are back at school…
and you are confidently posting new content and
programs and updates on your OWN WordPress website !
What a relief!
How long have you been waiting?
Wait no longer!
If this is the summer that — no matter what —
your website goes live — then my colleague and
mentor Christina Hills is the best person to hold
your hand and show you the inner workings for
your own D-I-Y WordPress website.
Get comfortable with the basics.
You’ll soon fearlessly go under the hood,
see the Dashboard as a friend, and you’ll
get your web site up — finally!
Imagine building your website with WordPress–
and loving the process! It IS possible. Christina
helped me with my WordPress website.
And this short course is a great value.
Christina’s Summer Program covers the fundamentals
of WordPress for non-techie people who want
to build a website without a webmaster.
It happens live for 4 weeks, but then all
the materials stay online
for you to go through at your own pace.
Full details: http://tinyurl.com/Websitecamp
…then email me a copy of your receipt,
we’ll get you and your site onto
my schedule for a complimentary “Inspire Your Message” copy review
(a $197 value) once the construction
4. Talk to me!
Leave a comment below (or send me an email
or use the contact form) and tell me how these events
land with you. Are you up for a summer
of letting your creative juices flow?
Let me know what’s up in your life, work,
and heart. How are you faring in refining
and polishing your message, regularly
sharing your great content, and connecting
with your perfect people for
building your tribe? Is it smooth sailing —
or have you hit some potholes?
How may I be of service to you in your busy life and business?(Sometimes a believing mirror can help you see things that are invisible to you.)
5…Watch for more news, events, and inspired connections coming soon.
(Save the dates: July 23-August 16 for
a juicy new Write Synergies Circle gathering!)
Happy Summer 2012!
May this dark of the moon be the seed-starter for the Dreams of Your Heart’s Desire. And keep on shining your light — in words!
Yes, there it is: Honor Your Dream. How long has it been in hiding? How long have you maintained the silence? How long have you felt “on the verge” of expressing it, yet always pull back at the last minute?
So here sits your challenge: Give It Words.
Does that feel threatening? Scary? Exhilarating? I acknowledge you for even considering that it may be time to open the closet door and dust off the dreams so you can clothe them in words to bring them forth.
One of the hardest tasks in the world is to tell your own story.
Especially for those of us called to make a difference in the world — to transform, to do something that hasn’t been done, to create anew — bringing forth our message is a doubly challenging endeavor. The typical models just don’t fit. It’s discouraging.
Maybe you’ve spent a lot of time trying to create your messages, to shape your marketing, to put together web sites or speaker sheets or articles, blogs or books. You long for your words to reflect the truth of the potentials and possibilities that are bubbling up inside you.
And yet, you haven’t captured the essence in spite of giving it your best effort. Your words are falling short of saying what you really want to say.
But how to put it into words?
How to articulate the ineffable?!
How to say it so the most perfect people “get it?”
How can you express what you do with authenticity and put it out there in words so that your most perfect people hear your message? There’s the rub.
Even as an experienced writer/marketer, I’ve faced the challenge of saying what I do so that people “get it.” And when they don’t, that hurts, especially when you’ve put your heart into saying what you do and it just doesn’t connect.
And it’s not only the message. It’s your WHO: your people, tribe, community. Once the message is ready to be shared, you face the challenge of putting it in front of your most perfect clients, so they will be able to say, “Yes! That’s me. I want some of that!”
For those of you sharing messages of transformation, take a minute to feel into what it might be like to have a partner, a believing mirror, someone who “gets it” and can help you put words around that vision you’ve been hiding for so long.
As writer, creation coach, and vision midwife, I help visionaries with the words and writing that bring forth the stories, wrap your gifts in words, and give shape and substance to your visions and dreams.
Especially if you are a woman in the best half of life — whose true gifts have been hidden or are only now coming forth — really take in the possibility that you might be able to express your stories and still feel safe. Feel heard. Feel embraced with understanding…Be held in a sacred container of conversation, content, and creation.
What would it feel like if you experienced your visions and messages coming to life in words?
Wouldn’t that change everything?
To open a conversation that just might change everything for you, please send me an email at bjmiddendorf(at)gmail(dot)com. Give me the 100-word synopsis of your story and dream to make sure this is the most appropriate fit for you and bringing forth your dreams.
Everyone who responds will receive my BEEing Presence Plan Kit for Messengers.
This is the first in a series of life lesson stories that illustrate the powerful and invigorating TURNAROUNDS that we are all capable of creating for ourselves, in the sacred circle of our words, reflection, and inquiry.
Have you been on a journey of personal growth, spiritual development, and profound transformation for awhile now? Maybe you feel like something just isn’t happening; it’s incomplete; OR you feel like you should be there already? Maybe you’re tired because you feel like you have been on this journey your entire life. “There has to be a better and simpler way,” you think to yourself.
Like you, I feel as though I have been journeying long and often alone. It’s been a precious voyage of inner discovery. And it has seemed like things have been “so close.” It’s like the mathematical asymptote: The line approaching the curve and never arriving.
A Puddle of Ineffectiveness
One day, I confided to my coach, Alan Hickman, that I felt exactly like a little puddle of ineffectiveness that wasn’t going anywhere. Thanks to Alan’s deep listening, reflecting, and training in inquiry, he stood with me in the sacred circle to turn it around.
First, I owned that, “Yes. It’s true. I’m right now in a space of being not very effective.” Deeper inquiry told me a different story from what I’d been judging myself about and beating myself up for.
(You know, the old riff of “I’m stuck. What’s wrong with me and why can’t I move?” And I’m sure you’re familiar with the “WHY AM I NOT THERE YET????!!!!” conversation.)
The Caterpillar Turnaround
The metaphor that arose in our discussion was the caterpillar. It had felt for so long like I was melting down from the inside, and I didn’t know who I was or what I was about. Everything seemed to be shifting and changing.
Then the Ah-Ha. Suddenly I realized that I was indeed looking at the inside of the chrysalis.
Here’s what I could now see: By loving and embracing the stuckness, the ineffectiveness, the right-where-I-am-ness, I was able to acknowledge myself for exactly where I am — like the butterfly looking out from inside the chrysalis. Observing myself with love and compassion, I can see that I am right where I am supposed to be.
Butterfly on my Ankle
A few weeks after my conversation with Alan, this chrysalis narrative continued, as I continued to “notice what I notice.” As I practiced Qi Gong meditation in the garden on two separate days, a butterfly landed gently on my ankle. That was my signal to share this narrative. The butterfly wings are flapping to strengthen themselves for emerging from the chrysalis and getting ready to fly.
(Interestingly enough, I also observe that my drops of essences from Jane Bell, called synchronistically enough, “Emergence,” are nearly complete.)
The Message from Ovo
Another message reaffirmed my understanding. A visit to Cirque Du Soleil’s brilliant “Ovo” show, provided the image of the chrysalis in an aerial interlude. Pressing against the sheer fabric, the butterfly finally emerged high in the air, flapping its (her?) gossamer wings.
Affirming Our Shared Emergence
These words too emerged. “Share this story and this image. For many are in the chrysalis and can use a guide, the powerful validation that where they are is just where they are meant to be. Help them to understand they are seeing from inside the chrysalis, and that their time of emergence is at hand.”
And so, for midlife, best-half-of-life creators of all kinds, global transformers of consciousness, messengers, change agents, thought leaders, awakeners, authors, and healers: I send greetings and encouragement from the chrysalis.
I’m with you when I say I know you are longing to step into your potential, to create transformative projects, businesses, creations, books, messages, ventures. I know you’ve been feeling for a long time stuck, stalled, scared, not good enough, or like you should be there already. Maybe you feel like you are trying to push the river to MAKE SOMETHING HAPPEN.
Emergence — Not Emergency
Allow yourself in this moment to relax. Know that you are enough as you are; and you are where you’re meant to be. Allow yourself to just BE in the soup of transformation. Be willing to flap your wings to strengthen them for your own emergence. (Try practicing in this safe space by bringing your story from your chrysalis into this community of comments.)
Shift the DNA of Your Experience
What has been most surprising for me in this turnaround is that by embracing the stuck, stalled, scared puddle of ineffectiveness, I’ve literally changed my patterns and shifted the cellular experience of myself.
It starts with an honest acceptance of, and even surrender to, exactly where you are right now. Realizing and embracing that you are still taking shape — you, your project, your creation, all together inside the chrysalis — creates a powerful self-recognition. More powerful still is to embrace your whole seemingly stuck self — completely free from judgment, and with love, appreciation, and gratitude.
And so you can. It’s the best prayer and meditation ever.
The gifts, messages, and sacred stories are flowing with abundance. If you chose, you could listen in and connect with thought leaders in your niche every single day, multiple times a day. You can follow the teleseminars, webinars, tweets, blog posts of Cultural Creatives on many different parts of the same or similar paths. You can try to comment on everyone who resonates, and so many people do. Their messages are potent for you.
For those of us charged over the years as “Living Libraries of Light,” the ocean waves of messages from thought leaders threaten to swamp us. Information overload is very real. We inhale to take it all in — and choke. We open our arms to embrace all that seems good and true and beautiful — and we are carried into the undertow because we cannot embrace it all.
The great shift and turning is upon us, the turning of an age. You can read about networks, circles, communities, tribes of people dancing at the edge of transformation, opening the doors, windows, and portals, ushering in new ways of being that are freeing and liberating and connecting us with our true selves, our deepest and Divine Essence. The forward motion and momentum, unfolding us into our future selves, continue unabated.
Even so, others steadfastly yank on chains of the past that hold us fast in old models and paradigms that are breaking down. The powerful in the world clamp down on anything that empowers greater numbers of us. That is the old story that the powerful are trying desperately to hold onto. And in this time of disparate and desperate polarities, we are tacking, our small ocean-going canoes heaved first one way, then another.
Discernment is key. How do you discern who to follow, who to listen to, who to invite into your own inner sacred space? I’m not saying I have all the answers, but perhaps together we can access and share some useful questions.
A few years ago, I created a personal mission statement. As a solo-soul-preneur, I am the face and being of my business. At the end of 2010, I was called to update that document. Usually the word “mission” for me is a non-starter. I’ve read far too many mission statements that put me to sleep.
As the Write Synergies Guru, I teach people the magic of growing their results (in words) greater than the sum of the parts. To do that, it calls for stepping into a level of Being in the World (and in the moment) that can only be expressed as your mindful and conscious Presence. Sometimes, that Presence yearns to share itself by owning the parts that it encompasses. Maybe my colleagues would benefit by revising their “mission” statements into “Presence” statements…Or what I call the Code.
As a writer and a mentor for those crafting, honing, and polishing their public messages, writing is one piece of my process. Let me share a secret: Who you are Being, from your deepest essence, is what makes the critical distinction between you and everyone else. So ponder the following questions. Take them to heart. Write your answers. Then share your riches here and with your own community of customers, clients — your circle and tribe.
First, who are you Being?
= From your Being, what is your Vision for 2011?
= What is your process for bringing that Vision to life?
= What are the words, the code that you live by when you are truly expressing from your highest and deepest self?
For me, it is out of a place of deep inner space, of silence, of a kind of solitude, of words written by hand and by keyboard.
The Write Synergies Code
Out of the deep inner space of silence and solitude grow discernment, intuition, compassion
Walking a spiritual path, I commit to living these core values:
Listening deeply and with loving attention
Exploring with joy, curiosity, passion
Living mindfully and artfully with health, serenity, abundance
Knowing the sacred flow in all energy exchanges
Promoting peace, creativity, wisdom
Expressing compassion for Gaia, nature, and all sentient beings
Advancing with honesty, integrity, authenticity, gratitude, imagination
Connecting with the highest expression of those intersecting my path
Embodying a focus on the Light within and highest good for all concerned
Such foundational and visionary work is the beginning of declaration — what some might even call the basis for a Manifesto. Rest assured, that is coming. Living and expressing fully from this deep place calls on all our intent, requires that we show up in these new and powerful ways of Being.
I have been able to share, above, acrostic messages as part of my Write Synergies Code. These totems and ways of Being are also part of the code and reminders to me about the deeper forces at play in all aspects of life.
We are being called to wake up and act from a more powerful place. Start by unlocking your Being, shining a light on your Vision, and acting each day in the truth of your Code!
Join me on the Write Synergies Path!
The Write Synergies Guru
Marketing is a way of getting the word out and building relationships. To take it to a grander scale, marketing is all about building community. If you feel challenged in expressing your gifts, if marketing is a dirty word, or at least it doesn’t come naturally, then here’s help.
Express your gifts’ value to others authentically, align your marketing messages with who you really are, and you will be creating the connections that resonate with your perfect readers (audience/clients/customers). That authentic connection is what your perfect people are seeking.
Think about it: What if they can only hear it from you? Now is the time to hone and refine your message and your voice to make the connections that your audience needs to hear–as only you can do it — from YOUR heart.
Authentic artful and heart-full communications that resonate with your perfect clients, customers, readers, and listeners are like the “magic wand” that can magnetically attract your perfect audience.
The art of marketing communication (copywriting, strategy, relationship-building) success hinges on you excavating and honing your authentic voice with a message that is aligned with who you are, expresses the heart of your project, and then can connect with your perfect audience.
It starts with a simple realization: All things being equal, people generally choose to do business with people they know, like, and trust. In fact, they are often most attracted to people most like themselves. What this means is that the more clearly you express YOU, the heart and soul of your venture or project, then the more likely you’ll connect with your perfect people.
If you are a visionary conscious creator, writer, soul-preneur, author, speaker, artist, or healer, then getting clear on who you are and what makes you tick can be the single greatest and most profound piece of marketing you can do to ensure your success and the long-term success of your project.
For many years, I worked in the book publishing business doing marketing and publicity. The following Book Marketing Menu gives authors and would-be authors the master list from which they can draw inspiration and their to-do list. It’s big and hairy. There’s a lot to do. BUT, start with what’s easy and comes naturally for you.
Your book is your legacy. Are you ready? Ready to live your legacy? To own the greatness of your vision, message, or project? To express your gifts? To connect with your tribe, so that the people who need to hear your message can hear you?
The following Book Marketing Menu outlines for you an array of ways to add power, presence, and platform to your vision, book or project.
For the many soul-preneurs, writers, authors, artists, therapists, healing professionals, coaches, and consultants who hate marketing, I pose one question: Why?
Share with this community what bothers you about marketing. I really want to understand. If I understand better, maybe I can help you.
From my own perspective (as writer, marketing strategist, copywriter), it seems more like the shoemaker’s children getting their shoes last.
Maybe it’s not exactly that for you. We’re curious. I’m curious. I’ve talked about building bridges from your creation or business or venture out to meet the tribe or community you are here to serve.
That bridge is marketing. That bridge encompasses the two-way path of the relationships that you develop with your perfect-just-right clients and customers. It opens the way for them to get to you and you to connect with them.
What is it about marketing your services or your creations or creative projects that simply stops you cold? You have gifts to give to the world in a balanced energy exchange. Don’t you think that it’s beneficial for people to know about who you are, what you do, and the gifts you have to offer?
Really. Curious minds want to know. Why do you hate marketing — really?
Molly Gordon wrote in her ezine today about how we don’t have to be superheroes and how to address our tendency to think we need to be. Using the power of daily ritual is one way to keep the stress of superheroine roles out of our bodies. Molly is expressing from her own deep truth of experience a great wisdom here — with a wink of fun tossed in for good measure. (Keep the crown, Molly. You deserve it!)
Seth Godin‘s post today on “winning” ended with this sentence: “What if the win is the ability to give a true gift?” It was one of those phrases that raised goosebumps, often for me an indicator of a powerful truth.
The gifts and creations (books, businesses, ventures, artworks, practices, creative projects) that you are bringing out to the world are created from the deepest heart of you. Coming from this fiery heart of creation, fueled by your passion for expressing your gift, you have a sacred trust to this, your creation and brainchild.
How can you maintain the purity of your intent as your creative project makes its way in the world? How can you preserve authenticity and integrity? How do you prevent it from becoming corrupted by the eddies and currents of the everyday and the toxic approaches that seem the common currencies?
This was one of the most powerful lessons from my recent retreat with the Dreams Alive and Relax-Online partners, Paul Bauer and Susan Castle. This powerful circle embodied the sacred and gave each of us the impetus to embrace our own sacred truth and creation while bringing it to life.
Your creations come from the heart and carry a sacred message. To speak that message in a way that connects with your perfect people (tribe, community, readers, clients, customers) requires a similarly sacred approach. Isn’t it time for sharing the sacred stories in a way that your people can really get it?